We are officially married now

I have to admit that I’m very happy that I’m married to the most wonderful man that I have ever been with. It is amazing feelings. The Civil Ceremony is brilliant. Those pictures is actually from Martin’s camera. Our wedding photographer will give us the pictures next 2-3 weeks. I can’t wait to see

My life in San Francisco is good. It feel weird when I called my parents and my relatives and they asked me “Are you happy?”.

Of course I’m happy to be here despite my grandfather just disown me for migrate here but I have no choice. I love Paul and I know he is not a typical white guy whose going to take me for granted. Paul is not the first white guy I dated. I know white men who cheated and Paul is not one of them. I wish people can see how wonderful Paul is and honestly, he always make me happy.

Today is my anniversary. OMG, it feel like yesteday! Happy Anniversary, Sayang. I feel so grateful to have you as my boyfriend and fiance. Thanks for making me a better person and treated me well. I’m very lucky to have you in my life.

We drive to Salt Lake City, Utah on March 29, 2010. It took 13 hours driving from San Francisco. Paul wanted to drive instead of flying because he wanted to show me the countryside.

That’s the 1st time I see snow. The whole journey to Salt Lake City is like in the movie. We also went to Cowboy’s city.

This photos taken at Temple Square, Utah. It’s very interesting city because Salt lake City was founded in 1847 by a group of Mormon pioneers led by their prophet, Brigham Young. Temple Square is the biggest Mormon church in the world. There’s a lot young cute girl whose working as missionary walking around and offering to give information about their religion. They are extremely friendly and they even compliment me saying I’m beautiful

My meeting with Paul’s dad, Paul’s brother & Paul’s nephew was good. Everybody is nice.

This’s Paul’s dad.

This is State of Utah.

Paul make pasta on our 2nd last day in Salt Lake City. Me & Andy help him preparing ingredients to cook.

Some view from Salt Lake City to Nevada.

Heavy snow suddenly come when we was in Tahoe and Paul have to buy chain.

Paul pay the Shell guy USD25 to install the new chain since he never do it before.

I love looking at Paul while he is driving. It just remind me how lucky I am because Paul is the best guy that I ever been with and I can’t wait to marry him.

I took almost 2 weeks to recover from jet lag + I was sick that time too. My 1st 3 days is crazy. I woke up, go out for breakfast and then, my head spinning after a couple of hours. Force me to go home and sleep. I sleep until the next morning. It was crazy moments. Now I know how Paul feel when he came to visit me 4 times.

I’m so lucky to have Paul as my fiance. He’s really wonderful. Help me a lot with adjustment.We went to Golden Gate & City Hall, San Francisco. Beautiful place.

I miss Malaysian food a lot. Seriously, we went to 1 of Malaysian restaurant called “Lime Tree Southeast Asian Kitchen” and my beef rendang taste lousy. Seriously, lousy. I miss my mom cook

I’ll blog about Salt Lake City, Utah next time.

Lou Jing – Chinese Black American girl

She may not have a good voice for singing but she certainly have a look. I can imagine how hard her mom have to face the community. It is not easy. It is ok for Chinese community to see white people with asian but it is no-no for them to see asian with black. If one day my kids want to get marry with black, I’m cool with it. They are human after all.

My grandfather doesn’t like Paul. He doesn’t know his age yet but he just doesn’t like him because he’s white. He believe white guy will treat their asian wife as a slave and divorce her after he get bored with her. I mean………seriously…….I seen loads of malay couple got divorced and why people don’t blame the malay guy? It’s unfair, right?

My exes certainly have a good excuse to not like the idea of me marry with Paul. They know me well and they know what kind of person I am. They know people will look down on me and people will think bad about me if people see me with Paul. It hurts them because they want to protect me and yet I didn’t listen to them. Of course I know my exes care about me a lot (I care about them a lot too) but we are talking about my life, my happiness and Paul make me feel ace. I love him loads.

I’m moving to San Francisco in March, 2010 and I’m not sure when is the best time for me to tell my grandparents the news. I know they will get freak out but I also know they love me loads. They might take some time to accept Paul but I was hoping Paul will win their heart someday…….

I love my valentine’s gift! It’s so cute. Thanks hubby pie.

We started talk about what should I expect in my new life and of course, It got me worry. I mean…….I’m sure everyone will think that way but I’m trying my best to think positive. I love Paul loads. He’s a wonderful guy. Seriously….you might think I’m crazy for engaged with older guy but the truth is I dated a few younger guys before and I don’t see they can be a good husband and father + I’m super romantic and manja (pampered). I can’t handle immature guy or a guy who feel insecure.

Paul just a perfect guy for me. Thanks sayang for always be there when I needed you and constantly make me feel in love…..crazy in love. Thanks for always put-up with my crap. Thanks for coming to my life. I love you so much. You are The Best! Happy Valentine’s Day!!!!

I went downstairs to take consignment note from the reception and my colleague says there’s a box of roses and chocolate for you.

I was like….huh? My birthday on March and valentine’s day on February. So, why do I receive a gift today? I bring the gift to my place and I open the card and it is from ……hubby pie

I love you, sayang….You are the best partner ever!

It’s been a long time I didn’t update my blog. I was a bit busy with my life and finding the best date to move to US. We found the date anyway

I’m a bit lazy to post my december trips photo with Paul here since I already put it in my facebook but what the heck….I should put a few here.

We basically went to Bandung, Indonesia for wedding dress. It was extremely cheap compare than KL. We went to Kawah Putih as well. Very cool place to go.

They also have strawberries stalls on the exit. It taste sinful delicious

What I love most about Indonesia are the local foods. We went to Rumah Moda for lunch and I order this yummy noodles. I forgot what’s the name. Lol.

P/S : I know my face look chubby…..I’m on diet now….hopefully my face will look thinner like before ~pray~

I received my Fiancee visa (K1 visa) on December 3 and honestly, I’m beginning to have cold feet.  I love Paul so much but moving to other country and the fact that I know some of his “peoples” doesn’t like me bother me a lot. I don’t know if I can count on Paul. Is it worth to sacrifice my life over love? I’m scared….What if Paul cheat on me? Not that I don’t trust Paul but loads of married men cheated.

Have a look at this link. Percentage of married couples cheat ”According to Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy, approximately 50 percent married women and 60 percent of married men will have an extramarital affair at some time in their marriage”. I come from broken family and all I want a happy relationship. I took marriage VERY serious.

Since I’m not a God, the only thing I can do now is have a faith in Paul. I really love Paul. He’s just different. He’s not a spoilt baby. He’s adventure, lovely, crazy and I learned a lot from him. Paul is the best partner that I ever had. Maybe I should move to US earlier than my original plan. Otherwise, I’ll start think negative (again) or finding an excuse why I shouldn’t leave Malaysia…………….

We are going to Bandung, Indonesia in 3 hours. Hopefully, I can find a nice Kebaya there. Guess what? I gained weight. My tummy is not flat and when I tried on the dress, I hate myself a lot. It look really bad…..I mean….how can I have tummy? I thought I’m thin. WTF! My mom asked me to go on diet. I hate myself now….damn it!

Enough complaining. I’ll blog about my Indonesia trip and Vietnam trip in my next entry. We’ll be going to Halong Bay. So romantic and Paul promised to get me an Ao Dai in Vietnam

Since I’m in a good mood, I want to add my K1 (Fiancee visa) timeline here :

06/29/09 – Paul sent I-129F to California Service Center

07/19/09 – Package returned back. Apparently the P.O Box address is wrong.

07/20/09 – Paul sent again the I-129F to California Service Center.

07/29/09 – USCIS received NOA1

07/30/09 – Cheque cashed

08/03/09 – NOA1 hardcopy received

10/06/09 – NOA2 approved

10/10/09 – NOA2 harcopy received

10/14/09 – NVC Received

10/15/09 – NVC Left

10/19/09 – Consulate Received

10/21/09 – Packet 3 Received

11/02/09 – Packet 3 Sent

11/19/09 – Packet 4 Received

12/28/09 – Medical check up.

12/02/09 – Paul coming to KL. We plan to go to Indonesia to look for wedding dress & Vietnam.

12/03/09 – Interview Date – Passed

12/04/09 – Visa Received